THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE

*THINGS THAT CAUSE REGRET AT OLD AGE*

When younger we make various choices without the future in mind. Sometimes those choices bite us in our mid-life. These are some of the things one might regret when they're older.

1. *Marrying the wrong person*

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

2. *The opportunities you did not seize*

When you are younger many doors will open, you will get many chances. Many young people let these opportunities go because of fear, laziness, or pride; yet well younger and with more energy is the best time to start a venture and a name for yourself. Some think the opportunities are too big for them. Take advantage of them or one day when you're older you will want to go back and grab those missed chances.

3. *The bridges you burned*

When we are younger, we care little for relationships, what most think about is getting money and moving up the ladder of success at all cost. Many use and trample on people to progress, they take relationships for granted, messing up bonds, sleeping with people for personal gain. But these bad actions will catch up with you ahead. When you will realize how empty life is without love and friends. When you will have success but no one around you or no one to trust you.

4. *The child you aborted*

You are a young lady, you get pregnant and you are scared. You take the aborting option quickly thinking of that moment then. But when you are much older, you will look back and wish you kept that baby. When you will be rich and successful you will wish that child you gave up on would be around to enjoy the fruits of your hard work. Being a single mother doesn't mean you can't make it in life or you can't find a man in future.

5. *The child you rejected*

Young man, you impregnated a woman, she told you she's pregnant with your child. You rejected her and the baby and ran. But years later when you're 50 something, you will wish you were responsible, you will wish you manned up and became a father to that child. You will see that child excel and become an adult but will have no claim to that grown child who you rejected from the beginning. You will regret being a Dead Beat Dad by choice

6. *The marriage you destroyed*

So you get married to your good fiance; the first months in marriage were good but shortly after, with your money and charm, you started having affairs. You became unfaithful. Your spouse begged you to stop, your children started hurting, your marriage was collapsing. One day when you are older, it will hit you how foolish you were to destroy the good marriage you had began to build for mere temporary thrills in affairs that did you no good. You will realize the damage you caused to your children and spouse.

7. *The God you disowned*

When you are much older you become wiser, God becomes more real as you see life in a more meaningful way. But don't wait to get older to start enjoying a relationship with God. Know God when you are young, build your future with God. Don't be a young rebel who runs back to God when age catches up.

8. *The body you messed*

You have only one body to live with all your life. The cigarettes, the alcohol you are abusing, the drugs you are taking, the unhealthy food you're consuming; all that will destroy you slowly. When you are 50 and lifestyle diseases catch up with you, you will wish you took care of your body when younger, that you exercised more; but now the damage is done.
9. *The time you wasted*

The time you are wasting when younger in worry, wrong relationships, laziness, being a couch potato, giving excuses and pursuing meaningless things; you will never get it back.

10. *The dreams and talents you shelved*

Are you talented when young; are there things you love to do and you are good at them? Nurture those talents, exploit them, don't give up even if you encounter set backs, don't give up on your dreams. If you give up, when you're older you will look at your peers who stuck to what they love and made it and think to self, "That could have been me". Pursue a career, study a course you love. Don't waste years of your life in a field that doesn't fulfill you.

11 *The name you defamed*

When you are older, a legacy is very important, the value of your name is crucial. You will ask yourself what is your reputation, what are you leaving behind? Your legacy is a sum total of your actions since youthful days. We write our biography by how we live life everyday. When you look back your path and you see the mud you threw at your own name, the shame you attracted and the little value you have added to the world; you will regret.

12. *The wealth you threw away*

Are you riding on good money during your productive years? Earning good money? Don't throw away that money in clubs, reckless living and wasteful shopping. Invest with that money, widen your revenue stream, make that money work for you and keep it safe to take care of you in your older years. Leave an inheritance for your loved ones so that you will never say "I wish I knew better"

13. *The good love that got away*

Is there that great person in your life loving you good? Don't push that person away, or else that person will walk out your life and you will never ever find someone that incredible and who connects with you all your life. It will torment you to grow older with thoughts of "What if I was still with that person?"

14 *The parents you despised*"

When younger, it is easy to show contempt to your parents; what do your parent's know? They are old-fashioned, shady and small -minded. But your parents are still your parents whether you agree with them or not, whatever their style. Don't let your parent die or age separated from you, reconcile and make up. When you get older, you will realize why your parents wanted to be close to you. The older you get, the more you see the value .

WHO ARE YOU SERVE

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You got angry in church and stopped being the member of the choir, left ushering, stopped sanctuary cleaning and every other work you were doing in church.
Eventually you've stopped going to the church because someone spoke to you in a way you didn't like...
Most of the messages from the pulpit was against you from your opinion...
Nobody called you when you were sick because according to you, "they do not love or care in the church..."
But pls excuse me...
You've not stopped working for the boss who insults you most of the time, neither have you stopped work because your colleagues spoke ill of you... (Money was the reason)
When you were sick, you didn't wait for your boss to call you or look for you at work. Rather, you called and told him about your present condition. No complaint about him not visiting you (Fear of query or loss of the job)
Do you remember that at school, your teachers, your schoolmates and or even your best friends offended you, yet you didn't stop schooling..
You can easily miss Church but not lectures because the lecturer will take attendance which counts in assessment
You can be late with your appointment with God at Church but you will be extra early for your visa interview at the embassy... �
Who are you deceiving?
I don't blame you too much. Maybe you don't know or you don't have adequate revelation about Church...
Please, Hear Me! Church is not a "No Offense Club" where all things must be done to please you and you alone.
What have you done in church for the good of others?
According to Scripture the first knowledge everybody must have about Church is that... It's *The House Of God* and *The Gate of Heaven*...
Genesis 28:17...
Your service to God must be with reverential fear, honor and respect.
God is watching... � _
Change your attitude.
Please forward to your contacts and let's effect a positive change for God

NOT DISCUSSED ON THE PULPIT

*SEXUALLY LIVING*
Don't think am not spiritual, I sent this because it is hardly discussed on the pulpit and mosques.
A lot of people don't associate sex with God - they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not holy.!!
The bible is explicit when it comes to sex.
*Sex is holy within marriage, and there is no prescribed style.*
Nowhere in the Bible does it say that the missionary position is the only sexual style.
Not discussing sex in a relationship leads to divorce!!
Pastor Khathide has counseled women who've complained: my husband treats me as if I were his brother.
There was one who told him: I am tired of getting sex fortnightly, like a salary.
Khathide told her she was lucky to be getting sex fortnightly, since some wives only get it on big days, like elections.
Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in Hillbrow.
Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don't.
Wives have become very frigid and even sleep with their panties.
If you're a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your bum touch your husband.
Today you find men going out of their way to get a glimpse of a vagina. They page through magazines and even go to lingerie departments in stores hoping to see what's hidden under panties because their wives hide it from them.
Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner.
A woman should parade naked and do some modeling to tempt her husband.
There are many married women who don't know what their husbands' penises look like. She only feels it when he enters her. They've never touched it, let alone seen it, because the husband switches off the lights before undressing.
A penis is a wife' s toy - she is supposed to play with it.
He blames couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired after a day's work.
You find many couples who've been sexually starved for years.
God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure.
You can't marry and not have a good time in bed.
WHO SAID YOU CAN ONLY HAVE SEX AT NIGHT?
Why can't you drive home during lunch and have a quickie with your wife?
We' re all equal in sex - it's not just about a woman satisfying a man.
You have to satisfy each other.
Have you ever seen a woman who has been satisfied?
Have u noticed how she glows and becomes energetic?
May the Lord Bless you.
This is the 'Whole Truth, Nothing But The Truth.
Once you read this you have to keep it going.
Age has nothing to do with sex; except health challenges.
The older u are the more u should enjoy it.
Make sure your spouse reads this.
Also Send to all your married friends, Grandmas & grandpas
send it to your married children.
You may just be saving a marriage from divorce.
Peace be unto ur marriage, let love n sex fill ur marriage. The fact reason you see your wife as "maami" is because you've stop seen her as your sex mate.
The reason why you've stop loving your husband is because you've stopped see him as your sexy babe, but now your "daadi". Sex, Love and God are not of evil, God signed to it and that is why he made stick between a male thighs and put hole within woman laps that the digger will be digging or is it Satan that put those materials there sir/ma? Answer me oooooh.
GOOD morning