The first answer to this question is: "How did you react the last time they told you the truth?"
How did you react the last time your child was truthful about a mistake?
Were you furious? Did you shame them?
Think about it, will anyone tell you the truth if they get the above response?
Try the following instead:
1: Do not ask yes/no questions. Eg: did you break this? Such questions are scary for a child as it shows the person responsible will be in trouble.
Rather, ask how did this glass break?
2: Monitor your reactions. Do not shame or label your child a liar. It will make them not to wish to tell you the truth even the next time. Our kids don't lie because they are bad, they are just probably scared of our reactions.
3: Rather than lecturing, have kids help you figure out what happened and why it was wrong. Ask how did this happen? How can we fix this? What can we do to prevent this from happening?
4: Ask questions that will help them see the whole situation. What exactly happened, why they did what they did and what made them lie.
5: Let your child know everyone makes mistakes; but they need to be honest to keep your trust.
6: Appreciate and praise when they tell you the truth. Tell them you are proud of them for telling the truth and being so courageous.
❌We never want our kids to think "my parents will be so angry."
✅We want our kids first thought to be "I need to tell my parents."
Let's create this environment from TODAY. We all want our kids to tell us their issues without fear, we should be the first one they come to for any problem they face now and in future.
Handle their small problems now; they will bring their bigger issues to you when they are in their tweens and teens.
REMEMBER the way you react to your child lies matters!
A healthy parenting is no joke.✍️
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