If one woman is not enough for you, one hundred women will not be enough for you. Solomon had 300 wives and 700 concubines yet he wanted Queen Sheba. The problem is not your woman. The problem is you. You can look for a thousand and one reasons to justify your philandering ways, but the truth is that you're sick and you need help.

The primary essence of a relationship is not sex. It is companionship. Being with a person who completes you; with whom you can be vulnerable, open about your feelings, share your dreams, aspirations and pains, get encouragement and support...that's a proper relationship and the essence of being marriage.

It is an error for sex to be the primary attraction. There are 24 hours in a day. Let's say you spend 3 hours having sex – based on say you no get work – which is highly unlikely – what will you spend the remaining 21 hours doing?

Dating or being married to a person who you can't talk with and play with is one of the most foolish mistakes you can make in your short time on earth.

CATEGORIES OF MEN TO AVOID AS A CHRISTIAN LADY READY TO MINGLE

CATEGORIES OF MEN TO AVOID AS A CHRISTIAN LADY READY TO MINGLE

♦ A visionless man: A man that lacks vision can never have vision for the marriage. He lacks foresight for himself, you as an intending wife to be and his children.

♦ An atheist: A man who does not believe in the living God can never be compatible with you in marriage.

He don't believe in the Almighty God (Jehovah) and you call yourself a Christian, don't mingle into marriage with him.

♦ A proud man: He is so proud that he can't humble himself to say sorry, instead he raise unnecessary arguments to justify himself, avoid him.

If you blindly enter into wedlock with him, you'll always be the guilty one whenever there's a misunderstanding because he won't admit he's wrong.

♦ A jealous and envious man: Your success as a young lady or woman makes him uncomfortable, and he don't support your dreams rather he despise your achievements, avoid him. 

Take an inventory check of yourself, check if you're making progress or retrogressing after you met this dude.

♦ A womanizer: He play games with women's heart and body, and you know about it, stay clear from him. To you, "he loves you more than them and has even promised to stop", it's better to break up with him than you being broken in marriage. 

In marriage, both your heart and body will be broken as a result of constant beatings from him.

♦ A sluggard: He don't have something doing for cash flow and he's not willing to do anything. All he does is to call his wealthy relations and friends to request for money.

He boast with their riches not his own. 

Know this, the son of a rich man is not rich until he has his own source of income aside his father's wealth.

♦ An undisciplined man: He lacks discipline, he talks and behaves anyhow.

He has no principles guiding his life, avoid him.

♦ An incorrigible man: He can never admit his wrong dispositions, talk more of taking corrections. Christian ladies, avoid him.

♦ A man without godly authority over him: He might be a Christian but he does not submit to his father or spiritual fathers and mentor, run for your dear life.

♦ A winebibber: He drinks alcohol and is a drunkard, avoid him.

Drunkards are not achievers, avoid them.

♦ A prayerless man: A man who cannot take advantage of his priesthood position in his home me and command how things will be in his family from the realm of the spirit, he is a joker. 

♦ Christian Ladies, be wise and do not be deceived. If you feel you are being blinded by love today in that relationship where the warning signs are visible already, a horrible marriage will open your eyes tomorrow.

Look deep into that relationship and be honest to yourself. 

10 TOP TRAITS OF A GREAT HUSBAND

10 TOP TRAITS OF A GREAT HUSBAND

“Are you a great husband? Do you want to be one’? Do you want to be a husband the wife will adore honour and hero-worship? Then all you just need to do is to develop the trait of a great husband and have the trait of a great dad.

(1) THE FEAR OF THE LORD – ¬The first trait of a great husband is the fear of the Lord. He fears the lord enough to obey his word, he fears the lord enough to love and provide for his wife, no husband can be said to be great if he didn't fear the Lord.

(2) HE IS OF A GODLY CHARACTER – A great husband is of a Godly character, he is meek, gentle, caring, loving, ready to forgive supportive, wise and talk with wisdom.

He is not stingy, he is honest, doesn’t go to night clubs, he doesn’t drink, smoke or unfaithful to his wife.

(3) HE IS IN LOVE – He loves his wife with all his heart and he is not ashamed to let anybody know this. He expresses the love to the wife at any given opportunity.

(4) HE RESPECTS AND HONOUR HIS WIFE – When you see a man that embarrasses his wife in the public, he is a baby husband, he is not a great man. A great husband respects and honour his wife and give all glory to God.

(5) HE IS A GOOD COMMUNICATOR – There is nothing a woman wants more than to be her talking mate. She needs a man to listen passionately to her when – She talks, a great husband is good at this. He is open to his wife, he speaks the truth in love, and he is always positive in his reaction to his wife.

(6) HE IS A GREAT LEADER – He is never a boss, he is a leader, he knows how to make his people follow him without forcing them. He has a vision and he shares the vision with his family, he influences the family and he leads by example, he makes his people work without warring with them, he makes them do all things with joy.

(7) HE IS DILIGENT – A great husband is a worker, he is not lazy, he knows that favour comes only on the train of labour and not idleness, he put his hands to work and make bread available to his family.

(8) HE SATISFY HIS WIFE BEDROOM DESIRES – A great husband is romantic, he knows how to make his wife enjoy him, he is tender, patient and careful with his wife in the bedroom, he knows that foreplay is a must if a woman must enjoy sex, hence he never rush the wife but bring her up before any sexual act.

(9) HE GIVES HIS WIFE PEACE – The wife of a great husband is always unhappy to see him leave because he is a man of peace, no fighting, no bitter argument, no abusing or cursing, no shouting, malice, bitterness ” resentment, bickering and hatred with a great husband. he is a source of joy to his darling wife.

(10) HE IS COMMITTED TO MAKE HIS MARRIAGE WORK : He never threatens the wife with beating, separation or divorce, he is ready to give his marriage anything to make it work, his wife his number one in his life after God, his wife is his thinking partner, prayer partner, bedmate, soul mate, lover one and the only one.

May the Lord give you the grace, wisdom and understanding to be a great husband in Jesus name

 

𝙎𝙀𝙑𝙀𝙉 𝙒𝘼𝙔𝙎 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙀𝙉𝙀𝙈𝙔 𝙄𝙎 𝘼𝙏𝙏𝘼𝘾𝙆𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙋𝘼𝙎𝙏𝙊𝙍𝙎 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝘾𝙃𝙐𝙍𝘾𝙃𝙀𝙎

𝙎𝙀𝙑𝙀𝙉 𝙒𝘼𝙔𝙎 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙀𝙉𝙀𝙈𝙔 𝙄𝙎 𝘼𝙏𝙏𝘼𝘾𝙆𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙋𝘼𝙎𝙏𝙊𝙍𝙎 𝘼𝙉𝘿 𝘾𝙃𝙐𝙍𝘾𝙃𝙀𝙎

The evil one seems to be ramping up his spiritual attacks on pastors and Churches today like never before. The gates of hell is really trying to prevail against the church in every locality and community of the world. What are 7 ways the enemy is doing this?

𝟏. 𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐍𝐂𝐈𝐏𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐒 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐏𝐎𝐖𝐄𝐑𝐒 𝐈𝐍 𝐋𝐎𝐂𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐒

Recently, a pastor told me the story of how his 200 member church closes down within one year in a community. Thieves broke into the church and stole the ringing bell and prayer cloth of the pastor. And pronto, people stopped coming to the church the next Sunday. That is spiritual warfare by hosts of darkness in that locality. Forces of darkness in communities are arrayed against any church that brings light of the gospel to the people. And they are destroying churches due principally to the ignorance of pastors concerning spiritual warfare.

𝟐. 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐃𝐄𝐑𝐒 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐏𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐑𝐒 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘

The Christian family is under attack today because if the evil one can create havoc in their family, then he can undermine the work of Christ on earth. Some church members have an unreasonable expectation of the Pastor or Church Leader’s family. One example is that they expect their children to be close to perfect. When they see their children act up in ways contrary to the way that they expect them to act, they believe that the Pastor and his wife are doing a poor job in raising them. The thing is that children are going to act like children. We cannot expect the Pastor or the Church Leader’s children to be little angels because they are still children. The children of Pastors have unfair expectations being put on them. Many of the congregants falsely believe this when they read 1st Timothy 3:4 which says “He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive.” They reason that “A deacon must be faithful to his wife and must manage his children and his household well” _(1 Timothy 3:12)_ and that “if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church” _(1 Timothy 3:5)?_ Yes, they should be in submission but they are also going to still be children and no matter what a parent does they are still in the process of growing in maturity. Then there are unreasonable expectations about the Pastor or Church Leader’s wife. She is just as much a part of the ministry as her husband is but when they are over critical of her by putting under a magnifying glass, she feels like she is always under scrutiny.

𝟑. 𝐂𝐇𝐔𝐑𝐂𝐇 𝐃𝐈𝐕𝐈𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍

There may be nothing more destructive to a church than division and when the congregation starts to divide over non-essential issues then the Pastor or the Church Leaders can end up being stuck in the middle of it. I heard of one large church a few years ago that actually divided over the color of the carpet and when the Pastor tried to heal the rift, both sides seemed to feel that he was siding with the others. What ended up happening was that half the church left to begin a new church and the Church Leaders took the blame. This all started at a board meeting when the members couldn’t agree on what the color of the new carpet should be. Sometimes the church leaders and the pastoral staff divide over things that are non-essential like how a children’s ministry should be run, what the goals should be, and who should be over the ministry. If the enemy can create a division or rift between the members and the Church Leaders and the Pastor, he can destroy the integrity of the leadership and the church will suffer as a whole.

𝟒. 𝐁𝐔𝐑𝐍𝐎𝐔𝐓

When Church Leaders and Pastors do not delegate, they begin to be overburdened by the load. I had to learn this the hard way. It’s just too easy for the Pastor or Church Leaders to see everything that needs to be done at a church and then decide to just do it all themselves when volunteers are often more than willing to help. The church depends on volunteers, who are in reality unpaid staff, to do the things that no one or two people could ever possibly do. Perhaps it’s pride, the cause of Satan’s fall, that seems to necessitate the need for Church Leaders to handle everything themselves. When burn out comes, and it will come under these conditions, then those things that are the priorities of the church will suffer and the church leadership will suffer. When the church leadership gets overburdened, then the church as a whole begins to feel it. Satan loves it when there is so much business that the real purpose of the church, the kingdom-building, is left undone by the distraction of the many tasks that only a few are handling.

𝟓. 𝐆𝐎𝐒𝐒𝐈𝐏 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐑𝐔𝐌𝐎𝐑𝐒

Next to church division, gossip and the spreading of false rumors might be the biggest thing that destroys the integrity of the church leadership. If people are whispering behind the backs of Church Leaders then the effectiveness of their ministry can be destroyed. I remember hearing about a new Pastor that was hired and he went to visit a potential member who lived upstairs next to a bar in an upstairs apartment. One of the church members saw the new Pastor going into what she thought was the bar and thought that was scandalous. When she mentioned this to another church member, rumors started flowing throughout the church that the new Pastor might have a problem with alcohol. The fact is that the door that lead up to the apartment of the potential member was adjacent to the bar and wasn’t actually the entrance to the bar. What the church member saw and what was reality was not the same thing. When the rumor somehow got back to the new Pastor, he was more surprised than anyone. He addressed this at the pulpit the next Sunday and started preaching about gossip and rumors and how these destroy a person’s reputation and hurts the witness of the church in the community. The enemy loves to have us spread lies and false witnesses because there is almost nothing more destructive to a Pastor or a Church Leader than to hear about something that seems contrary to their expectations. Gossiping is almost the same as character assassination or slandering a person’s good name when most of the time it turns out to be false.

𝟔.𝐃𝐈𝐒𝐂𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐀𝐆𝐄𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓

This may be one of the enemy’s most effective weapons because when discouragement hits, it takes away the vitality and purpose of the Pastor and church leadership. It is so easy to become discouraged when church membership begins to shrink or when those who have certain positions in the church begin to lose interest in it. Every one of us faces discouragement from time to time and so this is why it is so important to be the BARNABAS in the church. Here’s what I mean. Barnabas was an encourager and gave people the benefit of the doubt. When no one else trusted Saul after his conversion it was Barnabas that spoke up for him. When Sanballat kept attacking and trying to discourage the workers who were trying to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem under Nehemiah, he knew where to hit them. He wanted them to focus on just how much work there was to do and how the threat of the workers being attacked and killed would discourage the workers and from completing the work. It got so bad that Judah said, ‘The strength of the bearers of burdens is decayed, and there is much rubbish; so that we are not able to build the wall’” _(Nehemiah 4:10)._ Sanballat, and Tobiah, and Geshem the Arabian used lies, rumors, threats, and fear to try and discourage the workers and their leaders from finishing the rebuilding of the walls. It almost worked but Nehemiah kept his focus on completing the task and didn’t allow circumstances to discourage him or the workers. If the enemy can discourage the Pastor and Church Leaders then he can weaken the work of the Lord or make it stop altogether.

𝟕. 𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐌𝐈𝐒𝐄𝐃 𝐏𝐔𝐋𝐏𝐈𝐓.

The event kills off any church gradually by corrupting and compromising the pulpit. Any pulpit that no longer declares the undiluted word of God without fear is highly compromised and it will kill the life of God in the pew. God will only work and confirm His word, not the ideas and opinions of men, no matter how highly placed or ordained they are. Satan kills churches and stopped Holy Spirit from working by removing the true word of God from the pulpits. Most pulpits of today glories in Fun, Feasting and Fashions. Most churches of today are n cl deep in Celebrations, Ceremonies and Collections. No wonder there is so much nominalism and secularism gaining upper hand in modern churches.

𝐂𝐎𝐍𝐂𝐋𝐔𝐒𝐈𝐎𝐍

If you are a Pastor or a Church Leader or even if you are a church member, know that you and the church are under spiritual attacks from the enemy. The more successful a church’s ministry is, the more likely they’ll be under the enemies attack. Satan doesn’t bother with church’s that are simply going through the motion, churches that are not busy doing kingdom-work, churches that are not evangelizing, and churches that are not discipling members to grow in holiness. He’ll use church division, gossip and rumors, burnout, discouragement and trying to create havoc in Church Leader’s families to bring down a church. He normally starts at the top… with the Pastors and Church Leaders. He reasons that if he can destroy or make the leadership ineffective, then his work is done.

MEN TAKE NOTE.!!!!

MEN TAKE NOTE.!!!!

To my fellow men,🤵 why is it that most of you have no single respect for women?👩

All we think is how to have sex with them and the next thing is to dump them like hot kettle and make them a topic of discussion among our friends.

She allowed you have s+x with her because she felt secured with you, she saw you as a good and responsible person.

She allowed you go to bed with her because she believed in all the fakes promises you made to her. Some of you even go to the extent of promising them marriage just because you want to have s+x with them. MEN WHY???

Why making her believe in you when you know you just wanna use her and dump her?

Why making her have high expectations on you??

Since you know you don't have intention of settling down with her then why having s+x with her??

The one that annoy me most is the fact that after you get what you want you loose Respect for her, you no longer see her as a human being that should be cared for. 

You start seeing her like a fool, you start seeing her as if she's a cheap brat. 

She's cheap because she accepted you right?.. if you wanna know how expensive she is then go to her inbox and see how many guys she's disappointing on each day just to be with you.

Why don't you learn to love and appreciate your woman?

A man can have sex with a woman he's not in love with, but a woman will never have sex with a man she's not in love with. She allowed have sex with her because she loves you.

You treat women like they are trash, you have forgotten so soon that you came into this life through a woman and you were also raised by a woman. 

Women should be highly respected in this world because they go through a lot just to see us through in life.

RESPECT YOUR WOMAN!!!!

THANKS!!!!

WHY DO KIDS LIE?

WHY DO KIDS LIE?

The first answer to this question is: "How did you react the last time they told you the truth?" 

How did you react the last time your child was truthful about a mistake?

Were you furious? Did you shame them?

Think about it, will anyone tell you the truth if they get the above response?

Try the following instead:

1: Do not ask yes/no questions. Eg: did you break this? Such questions are scary for a child as it shows the person responsible will be in trouble.

Rather, ask how did this glass break? 

2: Monitor your reactions. Do not shame or label your child a liar. It will make them not to wish to tell you the truth even the next time. Our kids don't lie because they are bad, they are just probably scared of our reactions.

3: Rather than lecturing, have kids help you figure out what happened and why it was wrong. Ask how did this happen? How can we fix this? What can we do to prevent this from happening? 

4: Ask questions that will help them see the whole situation. What exactly happened, why they did what they did and what made them lie. 

5: Let your child know everyone makes mistakes; but they need to be honest to keep your trust. 

6: Appreciate and praise when they tell you the truth. Tell them you are proud of them for telling the truth and being so courageous. 

❌We never want our kids to think "my parents will be so angry." 

✅We want our kids first thought to be "I need to tell my parents." 

Let's create this environment from TODAY. We all want our kids to tell us their issues without fear, we should be the first one they come to for any problem they face now and in future. 

Handle their small problems now; they will bring their bigger issues to you when they are in their tweens and teens. 

REMEMBER the way you react to your child lies matters!

A healthy parenting is no joke.✍️

20 THINGS MAKE MARRIAGE SUCCESSFUL

20 THINGS THAT MAKES MARRIAGES WORK SUCCESSFUL

Our Journey of matrimony started 19 Years ago at exactly 11:45am on May 4th, 2002 at Christ Gospel Apostolic Church, Alekuwodo Osogbo, Osun State.

In those 19 eventful years, it has been a period learning, earning, growing, knowing and moving forward. It has been years of Schooling indeed, practical school of Life with privilege of mentoring others as we move on together.

1: YOUR SPEED IS DETERMINED BY BOTH OF YOU

One great lesson I learnt early in Marriage is the fact that the speed of People in Marriage is determined by both of them not just by one, so if they work together they get result if they fight instead of moving on, both will suffer for it.

The Picture of ‘’one legged race’’ in my Primary School always come to my mind, one leg each of two people will be tie together and they have to run 100 Meters dash together, they have to merge their strengths, weaknesses, techniques etc to be able to get a good result.

This is exactly the picture of Marriage, not just our legs are joined together, life, vision, future and destinies are joined together, IF WE WORK AS A TEAM AND NOT WAR IN THE TEAM WE CAN WIN OUR WAR.

2: IF YOU EMPOWER YOUR WIFE YOU ARE ONLY EMPOWERING YOURSELF

If you support your Wife or Husband to succeed in His or Career you are only helping yourself, I saw this playing out in my Marriage and the marriages of others around me.

Lots of People attack their Spouses sources of income when things go wrong in marriage. When a Man fail to empower his Wife, if anything happen to him, relatives will turn his Children to House boys and girls.

3: WOMEN ARE TRULY FE-MALES

Until I got married I did not know the true meaning of Female, sometime after my Wedding read it somewhere that the true meaning if Female if Male-with feelings, Feeling-Male. This is true of all Women, if you want to be a great Husband you must learn how to feed her emotion and take good care of her feelings.

4: GOD WILL BE VERY IMPORTANT ALL THE WAYS

Lots of People involve God in their choice making but do neglect him soon after their Wedding. I realized that You will need God more in Marriage than in Choice making. In fact you will need him in the Journey all the way. In pregnancy, delivery, raining of your Children, family living you will need him.

5: SEX WILL NOT ALWAYS BE WAHT YOU THINK

Lots of youths went into Marriage with big expectation of explosive sex in their Marriage, some guys even think of 24/7, wao, Marriage is not like that, sex in a marriage can be of explosive, and atimes dry or non existence. You remember that the woman will be prégnant, mensurations, just delivered, sick, tired, have night ‘’Head aches’’, will travel, be busy with her career etc.

All these will affect sex in Marriage, but lots of young ones do Make sex thé reason they are getting married, there disappointment will start after yes I do.

6: YOU NEED TO DEVELOP SPOUSAL BIAS

In marriage I learnt that their will be lots of times you will need to choose between some people and your Wife. This may be your Family, Neighbors, Friends, Career etc.

Knowing that the Wife or Husband should come first after God is very important to the success of any Marriage, been bias in favour of your Spouse is the Key to the health of any Home.

7: HEALTH IS VERY IMPORTANT

Two incidents happened to People around me in 2010 that woke me up from my slumber as far as health issues and healthy living is concern. These incidents made me realize that investment in health is very important and that If you neglect your health you are only preparing yourself for constant Hospital visit and costly and painful treatments.

8: MONEY WILL ALWAYS BE IMPORTANT

People marry for love, but they are going to live together spending Money. I discovered that Romance will be easy when there is Finance, my experience counselling lots of Couples made me to to always say jokingly that if you want your Wife to call you Honey give her Money, if you don’t give her Money she will think you are Monkey.

9: THERE ARE VULTURES IN MARRIAGE

I got to know very early in marriage that there are some People called Vulture around marriages. These Vultures most of the time are People very close to you, your Friends and Family Members, yes they can be the worst enemies of your Marriage.

When marriage has issues most Family Members takes side with their own and fight the Spouse dirty result very difficult marriage, they make the home more difficult for their Family Member, makes reconciliation impossible or difficult.

I got to know that People that love you can be number one enemy of your Marriage. In showing you love they can hurt your Marriage dearly.

10: WALLS AND BOUNDRY IS TO BE BUILT

I discover Years ago that there are two Vultures that can destroy a Home and we need to handle them differently.

To the Vultures that are far like Friends and Ex’s we need to build Walls to protected our marriages. But for our Families that we can not run away from we need to build boundries

11: A BROKEN GLASS CUP SHOULD NOT LEAD TO BROKEN MARRIAGE

During our wedding a good Friend of mine gave us a set of Glass Cups as a Wedding gift, I love these Cup passionately as they are blue in Color and very beautiful.

One day my new bride was about to serve our Food, she put one of the Cups inside the train and the Cups roll down and broke, I was very sad, but I got up to help her. To my surprise another Cup got broken in her hands in almost the same situation few days later but my concern was her safety and not the Cups, but I was not happy that two of my precious twelve Cups are gone.

Few days later, I wanted to pick from the Fridge, on these Fridge where the remaining Cups and the Fridge shook and all the Cups came down at the same time and broke, she broke two within a Week, I broke Ten within a Minute. If I had abuse of fight her for breaking my precious Cups what do you expect her to do when I broke all the remaining Ten in a minute, lesson leant, broken Cups should not lead to broken Marriage

12: LIFE IS IN PHACES PEOPLE ARE IN SIZES

One thing I learnt so early in Marriage is never to compete with anybody.

People do buy what they don’t need or afford to impress people they don’t like and oppress people that do not like them and they do end up in debt and penury.

Reading S.M.O Aka Book titled My Fathers Car in secondary School really help me to prepare for a life that is not based on competing with others but on completing your own race, this really helped.

13: IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A PERFECT SPOUSE YOU NEED TO LOOK AMONG ANGELS

Marriage will teach anybody in it that he or she is not perfect and his or her partner can never be perfect. This really help as we step into the Journey of Marriage and we have to disagree on whether light should be off or On, I wanted the light On when sleeping but she wanted it off, if the light is on she won’t be able to sleep, it cause lots of issues when we just got married, that proof we are both human and never perfect.

14: JOURNEY OF MARRIAGE INVOLVES BEEN STRONG TOGETHER

I learnt that Journey of marriage involves been strong together and fighting for your future together.

We had our own share of battles that we fought together through God, is the battles of losing the roof of our House the day our first Child was three years old and became homeless for about a Month, or the loss of my younger Brother and my Father within a Month interval, loss of my Father In Law when it was least expected, Sickness of our Daughter that needed urgent surgery, or my Leg that needed to be operated upon with our annual Couples Conference few days away.

We overcame all these because we stood together, cry together, rejoice together and Won together. It is a great lesson, you can’t win your War when you fight alone or fight each other.

15: A HOME NEED A HOUSE

Two years into our Marriage my Father in Law, We fondly call him Baba Akede suddenly showed up one day in my House, he drove all the way from Oshogbo to see me.

Later that night he took me out personally to discus with me, he asked me. When are you moving into your own House? The question was not expected at all as we just got married and trying to settle down, the talk of Building of buying a House was not there at all.

The old Man made me to know that a Home is not existing without a House, he also said the longer I wait to build the more difficult it will be to build as Children will start to come, responsibilities will be rising for about 25 Years, until the first Child graduate from School and by then he said I may be in my 50s or knocking 60s. He also said I don’t need Money to build a House, I only need Vision.

Baba Akede words became my guiding principles I ended up moving into my own House within two years of his Visit.

16: PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS BE HUMANS BUT YOU NEED TO STICK TOGETHER

My 20 Years in Marriage is like going to the ‘’University of the People’’ I learnt that People will always behave as Humans, but I have to stick with my Wife.

Many that we greatly trusted became great disappointment, many that we helped and supported turned it against us and slam it against us.

In all these I learnt great lessons, Couples must stick together in face of Liars, backstabbers, haters and hypocrite.

17: IN LAWS MANAGEMENT WILL ALWAYS BE A TECHNICAL ONE

Two sets of In laws are involve in every Marriage, the Husband’s Family will be the Wife in-laws and vice versa. All young Couples will have to deal with these set of in laws and issues May rise from any side. But in Africa, most issue do rise from the Husband’s Family, the Wife’s In law, most especially from the principal In law, the Mother In law.

Early in our marriage we made clear to ourselves how to handle both families and how to stick together and not allow People to come between us but to take care of our Family Members to the best of our ability most especially our Parents and younger ones. This really work for us.

18: CONTINUOS LEARNING IS THE KEY TO THE SUCCESS OF ANY MARRIAGE

I meant in marriage that nobody will ever be a graduate, forget about the certificate they gave you on your Wedding day, please note that what they gave you was a WEDDING CERTIFICATE, not MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE, they gave you a certificate of participation in the Wedding, for attending the Wedding, not Certificate to make marriage work, always remember that WEDDING CERTIFICATE IS A LEARNER’S PERMIT, NOT A DRIVERS LICENCE

19: MARRIAGE IS A MARATHON NOT A SPRINT

The Journey of Marriage is not an 100 meters dash or 4 by 100 relay, it is a marathon, Marathon involves running for a long time, Climbing Mountains, Valleys, Streams, hills, Cities, villages, Marriage also involve many years, issues, decisions, talking, working, making Money, spending it together, fighting wars, winning battles, giving birth to Children, raising them, meeting People losing them, working, vacation, Stress, sickness, healings, loving each other, hurts, forgiveness, conflict resolutions and lots more

Lots of young ones do go into marriage just to fulfill their lusts, meet present needs, based on emotion, tipsy of Love like a drunken Man, the Journey of Marriage Marathon will open their eyes.

20: WHEN YOU STOP DATING YOUR MARRIAGE STARTS DYING: It me some time in my Marriage but I later realized that when Couple stop dating their marriage starts dying immediately. The gradual decline will not be noticeable at first, but gradually you will see it.

It starts with hurts, to offenses, to arguments to speaking cutting words to each other, then full blown fight and endless bickering.

When warring Couples sees a Counsellor to settle disputes they will talk about their offenses but will fail to note that, their misunderstanding did not start the decline in their marriage but failure to connect, to intimate and deliberately spend time together to play, gist and connect with a Babylike innocenc

WHY I STOPPED COLLECTING MONEY AS AN INSTRUMENTALIST.

WHY I STOPPED COLLECTING MONEY AS AN INSTRUMENTALIST.

PLS READ WITH UNDERSTANDING.

I grew up from a home where we were taught to work for God freely.

I remember my kid brother once received a call to come and collect his own share of money late Evangelist Reinhard B shared for all the instrumentalists that functioned at his crusade.

My late mum asked my junior brother you mean they paid you people for working for God?

She told my brother never to collect the money and allow God to reward him.

NOW THIS IS MY STORY-

Several years ago I was been paid as a church pianist. 

When you missed a service or rehearsal, a particular amount will be deducted from your allowance.

So I became so committed not because of service but I wouldn't want to loose a penny from my allowance.

Sometimes our pastor removed our tithe before handling over the allowance to us because he certainly knew we won't pay the tithe.

We hardly give offering not to talk of paying tithe. For me I was happy because he was really helping me to pay tithe..lol

One FAITHFUL day a guest preacher was invited to the church and he preached on TRUE SERVICE.

I will never forget that message..IT IS MORE BLESSED TO GIVE THAN TO RECEIVE.

WOW! I went home sad, couldn't sleep at night...his words kept ringing in my ears throughout the night.

Then suddenly I remembered my mom words again " never you get paid for working for God"

This was my personal encounter pls note that. I went to my then pastor and begged him never to pay me again.

He actually thought I was angry or a church has offered me a higher pay.

I told him no I'll be fine.

I remembered his PA once ran after me with my allowance but I refused then he insisted that pastor said is just a gift from him.

I collected the money and dropped in the offering box quietly.

I didn't tell my other instrumentalists my decision. 

One day i sat on my Piano playing for a guest speaker from the US, suddenly the man called me up and gave me some pounds from his pocket.

A month later someone gave me a car gift and free accommodation.

In another program a prophet called me up, empty a bottle of water on my head with heavy prophetic word that leads to what I'm doing today.

One day a woman called me after service to her car and opened the boot ,I almost fainted when I saw the foodstuffs she brought for me.

My guys started asking me Larry why are you the only person receiving all these blessings. 

I later opened up to them how I stopped collecting the monthly allowance. 

Then some of them took the same decision and also began to see changes.

For the past 15 years have never been paid for any service render to God but God has proven Himself FAITHFUL. 

I ordered all my sons and daughters to pay their tithe to their local churches.

I have used up to 4cars I didn't buy with my money in the place of service.

I have given instrumentalists money severally and they refused.

Some musicians play for us and sow instead of collecting from me. 

One pastor once asked me my secret.

All could say is We have also sowed the seed of service so I'm not surprise.

EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS KINGDOM IS BASED ON PERSONAL CONVICTION.

I'm not against any pastor paying their workers neither against people under a pay role in their churches.

There's nothing wrong encouraging people but at the same time let's be sure our service to God is genuine and not monetized.

MY TAKE. 

I HOPE THIS WILL BLESS SOMEONE.

MORAL OF LOVE

A beggar came asking for food. I told him to come around to the back door and asked him to sit on the floor while I went in to bring the left over food.

I brought him food & said, let's pray. Now repeat after me, "Our FATHER in Heaven". He said, "Your Father in Heaven". I said."No, say OUR FATHER in Heaven". He again said,  "Your Father in Heaven"!!! 

This extremely Irritated me! I asked why do you say 'Your' father when I say 'Our' FATHER?' 

He said, "Sir, it's like this. If I say Our FATHER, then we both become brothers. If we are brothers, you would invite me in through the front door and not the back; you would ask me to sit at your dining table not on the floor; you'd also not give me stale food! Sir, somehow it's not possible that we are sons of the same father!"  

He may be your Father, but he can't be OUR father! 

Whose FATHER is He?

It took a beggar to teach me the truth!!!

 GOD becomes our FATHER when we treat one another as brothers and sisters.

GOD Bless us all....

WHAT HAPPENED TO MAN OF GOD

WHAT HAPPENED TO MAN OF GOD

AT A HOTEL - LESSON FOR ALL.

PATIENCE: A LESSON OF LIFE. 

I walked into a hotel and after going through the menu, I ordered some food. 

After about 20 mins a group of guys and ladies walked in & ordered theirs. 

To my dismay, these folks got served first. I watched as they began to eat & laugh heartily. 

I even overheard one of them bragging about how connected he is to everyone in the hotel and I felt mocked. 

I decided to leave. Unable to take it anymore , I called the waiter. He calmly told me: "Yours is a special order, being prepared by the chief chef himself. 

Their orders were prepared hurriedly by students on attachment because the top chefs are busy with yours Sir. That's why they were served first. Please have some juice as you wait". I calmed down & waited patiently.

Shortly after, my meal was served by 6 waiters. Unknown to me, the owner of the hotel (who happened to be an old long lost friend of mine) saw me when I entered and decided to surprise me. 

She changed my simple meal to a five-star meal. The party at the other table were shocked. 

They couldn't stop staring. Suddenly they were the ones murmuring, asking why they didn't get that kind of service and meal.

Such is life! Some people are ahead of you and are eating now, laughing at you and talking about how they are smarter, wiser and better than you, how they are well connected, blessed, have money and are enjoying life . 

You are waiting tirelessly wondering why it's taking so long to breakthrough, You endure mockery and humiliation. 

Maybe you have contemplated suicide, gone throughout depression or suffered severe mental anxiety. 

Do not worry! The owner of the world has seen you & doesn't want you to be served a simple meal like those making a mockery of you. You're waiting long because yours is a special meal. 

It takes time to prepare. And only chief chefs prepare them.

Wait for your meal and relax . When it comes that laughing party will be silenced for good.

I ACTED AS A BLIND MAN TO SUSTAIN MY MARRIAGE.

I ACTED AS A BLIND MAN TO SUSTAIN MY MARRIAGE.

A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty.  It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour.

While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight. However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually. 

Blind husband did not know this and there was not any difference in their married life. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.

One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.

He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.

A man from behind called him and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you.

He replied, *I am not blind.* *I was acting, because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease.* So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.

*Moral Lessons:-*

1. *Some times it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another's short comings, in order to be happy*

2. *No matter how many times the teeth bites the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That's the spirit of FORGIVENESS. Even though the eyes don't see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That's UNITY." May the Lord grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness*.

3.  *Everyone is important according to his/her unique purpose,Never look down on your spouse unless you are admiring his/her shoes.*

Do you know that?

1. ''Alone I can 'Say' but together we can 'talk'.

2. "Alone I can 'Enjoy' but together we can celebrate

3. 'Alone I can 'Smile' but together we can 'Laugh'.

*That's the BEAUTY of Human Relations. We are nothing without each other*

The razor blade is sharp but can't cut a tree; the axe is strong but can't cut the hair. 

Thanks for reading through. May God bless you richly as you go out today.

DO NOT HOLD BACK

Do not hold back Your children are not too young to understand the instructions in the Bible?

If they could understand cartoons and movies, they can understand what God says about issues of life.

I had to watch Avatar more than once before I understood it but my youngest daughter watched it once and could explain all the technicalities of the movie.

Who says they're too young?

Josh.8.35 - There was not a word of all that Moses had commanded which Joshua did not read before all the assembly of Israel, with the women, THE LITTLE ONES, and the strangers who were living among them.

They are brilliant, intelligent and wise

Joshua did not hold back the curses, he read both the blessings and the curses.

Josh.8.34 - And afterward he read all the words of the law, the blessings and the cursings, according to all that is written in the Book of the Law.

If you do not OWN your home, your children will rule it for you.

Selah!

𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐋𝐚𝐝𝐲𝟓 𝐖𝐀𝐘𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐁𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄

𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐋𝐚𝐝𝐲

𝟓 𝐖𝐀𝐘𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐁𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐋𝐈𝐅𝐄

As a Lady, when you come into the life of a Man that values and treats you with so much love, here are 4 areas of his life you should also help him improve in, be you his faince or wife.

𝟏) 𝐅𝐀𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐎𝐍

Men are not very fashionable beings compared to Women, some guys are actually not doing bad, while some need deliverance in this department, irrespective of how he is doing, as a a lady, you should help him Improve

Suggest styles for him to sew.

Suggest color combinations for him

Be his fashion Police

Correct him whe he makes fashion blunders, like color blocking or wearing mismatching outfits and commend him the day he dresses well.

If he is the type that doesn't buy clothes and accessories, force him to do so. You have that power and influence over your man, use it, you can buy for him too, for instance, if he doesn't wear sneakers, jeans or fine t-shirts, you could buy some for him and make him wear them and look sweet. 

Within few months of coming into his life, people should notice the change/improvement in his wardrobe... 

𝟐) 𝐒𝐏𝐈𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐔𝐀𝐋

As I told one lady few weeks back, your job as a helper is also spiritual, even if you didn't marry a pastor, that Man you married, strive to contribute to his life spiritually.

If he is too busy pursuing money, or his schedule, look into his schedule and:

Fix fasting for the both of you, 

Fix Bible study for the both of you,

Send him Bible verses and voice notes to read and listen to during the day.

You are not the holy spirit, but Iron sharpeneth Iron. 

𝟑) 𝐒𝐎𝐂𝐈𝐀𝐋

Some Men may be shy, introverted, withdrawn, socially awkward, or ignorant. 

Some Men don't know how to call their parents and check on them, or send Happy new month text messages and build relationships. 

You are to become his Public Relations Officer.

Ask him if he has called his mom this week etc 

Correct him if he makes or takes anti-social actions. Help him build good social relations with his colleagues, boss in the office, Pastor, neighbors, family members etc. 

𝟒) 𝐂𝐀𝐑𝐄𝐄𝐑

This is also key, 

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to pursue courses, second, third degrees, have him tell you his career goals, let him be hungry for promotion and career growth. 

Never allow your husband become complacent in his career path. 

Encourage him.

Motivate him.

Use your Woman power.

Help him look for better job openings, read about his career and suggest things he can do to rise, be it in the private or government sector..

Every Woman can be with a Man that's already built, but only few can build with a Man.. 

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Proverbs  14:1  'Every wise woman buildeth her house......"

PS: As HIS progress is your progress, so also is YOUR progress his progress, you too, don't abandon your life, work on your self too and build your own life, and demand he helps you too..

Don't abandon your life, building his.

We can all be great together. 

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May our Marriages be great.

LOVE IS SWEET BUT WHEN MONEY ENTERS LOVE BECOMES SWEETER

LOVE IS SWEET BUT WHEN MONEY ENTERS LOVE BECOMES SWEETER

Love is very beautiful if you're with the right person, love is even more sweater when you're with the right person and then you have money. There is this feeling that comes when you can get anything your spouse wants.

When you have money to surprise your spouse with their favorite car, dream house, favorite dish, vacation around the world and other good things life can offer but when you don't have money everything becomes nothing but a wish.

Am not saying you can not have a beautiful life with the love of your life when you don't have money, you can have a good life with the one you love when you don't really have money but the feeling when you have money to meet up to every needs of your spouse and even more is sweeter.

There so many people who wants to really take care of their spouse, but money is always the challenge, they want to take their woman out on dates, buy her gifts, shower her with money, make all her dreams come true. Men who wants to create Paradise on earth for their spouse but because they don't have money it all becomes nothing but mere wishes.

Love is sweet but when you have love is sweeter. I pray that God blesses you with enough money that would make your love sweeter.

THIS IS SERIOUS😮: PASTOR BENNY HINN CORRECTS HIS THEOLOGY

THIS IS SERIOUS😮: PASTOR BENNY HINN CORRECTS HIS THEOLOGY

Pst. Benny Hinn in a viral video made some confessions that shook his followers where he denounced the prosperity Gospel he is known for preaching. 

He said He was "sorry to say that prosperity has gone a little bit crazy and am correcting my own theology and you all need to know it! Because when I read the Bible now I don't see the Bible with the same eyes I saw them 20years ago.

I think it's an offence to the Lord to say give a thousand dollars. I think it's an offence to the Holy Spirit to place a price on the gospel. I'm done with it. I will never again ask you to give whatever amount because I think the Holy Ghost is just fed up with it. I think it hurts the gospel.

So am making this statement for the first time in my life. And If you are not giving because you love Jesus, don't bother giving. Giving has become such a gimmick and it's making me sick to my stomach.

I think it's time we say it has it is. You know why? I don't wanna get to heaven and get rebuked! The Gospel is not for sale, the blessing of God is not for sale, miracles are not for sale and Prosperity is not for sale!"

12 KEYS TO A LASTING MARRIAGE

12 KEYS TO A LASTING MARRIAGE 

There is no accidental success or satisfaction in marriage. There is nothing like, "Oh you're lucky that, your marriage is successful." Every marriage that succeeds or lasts for a long time doesn't just happen by accident, a lot of work has to be done behind the scenes.

For your marriage to last, you must do something about it because the success or longevity of any marriage depends on the couple . Your marriage is what you make of it. The quality of your marriage rests on your shoulders.

Marriages don't last long these days and a lot of things are responsible for that. The life expectancy of marriages these days is between a month to five years. It's quite alarming. The global divorce rate is scarily crazy. 

So, if you're single, engaged or married, you need to know these things I'm about to share with you. These are the things that make marriage to lasts...

1. Compatibility 

The marriage that lasts is one where the couple is compatible to and with each other. 

According to a survey, lack of compatibility is the leading cause of marriage break ups globally. 

So, the marriage that lasts is the one where the couples are compatible, compatible in belief system, values, purpose, vision, dreams, ambitions, hobbies, interests, preferences etc. When there's no compatibility, there will be lots of irreconcilable differences and if not well handled will lead to the end of the marriage. 

Don't joke with this nor allow love to deceive you, two can't walk together except there's an agreement. It's not possible. 

2. God Factor 

The marriage that lasts is the one that has the God factor. God is the Custodian and Source of marriage and no marriage will last on the long run without His input. Nothing survives without its source. 

Many people are neglecting God and His instructions concerning marriage. I wonder how they expect the thing to last. Give God (the real head of the family) His place in your marriage and watch miracles happen. 

3. Understanding 

Understanding means to get, comprehend or grasp the meaning of something. So, you must understand your partner, the differences between you both, their likes and dislikes, dos and don'ts, the things that piss them off and avoid them. You must also understand their feelings, worries and complains. It's a full-time job and also a process. It doesn't happen once. 

4. Tolerance 

Tolerance is an important skill anyone must learn, not just those getting married. You must learn how to allow, ignore or overlook some things if you want your marriage to lasts. It's not every single matter you must say something about. 

Your partner is going to be naughty at times that you will be wondering how you ended up with such a person but you must learn how to allow, ignore or overlook the naughtiness. If you're the type that doesn't tolerate, you will tear your marriage in no time. 

5. Endurance 

The marriage that lasts is the one where there is endurance. We have a lot of impatient folks rushing into marriage expecting everything to be rosy, lovey dovey etc. Sorry to disappoint you, it's not going to be like that all the time. Every marriage has its high and low moments. You enjoy the high moments and endure the low moments. 

Sometimes, you have to endure and be patient with your partner to stop a particular habit or behavior. Sometimes, you have to endure in times of sickness etc. 

6. Teamwork

Marriage is about agreement, teamwork. It's about two people working together for a mutual and a common goal. 

Competing to be better than your partner shows you're foolish because marriage is not a place for competition but teamwork. So, you must learn to carry your partner along. You must delete from your vocabulary the word "I" and starting using the word "We."

It takes teamwork to make dreams work. 

7. Sacrifice 

Sacrifice is the emblem of marriage. It means giving up yourself for your partner. Sometimes, you will have to give up your happiness, comfort for the sake of your marriage. If you are the selfish type, you will not last long in marriage. Selfish people don't last long in marriage. 

8. Forgiveness 

Don't even bother to get married if you are the type that finds it difficult to forgive.

Your partner will offend you often mostly unintentional. You must learn to forgive. You learn to let go of the anger, the resentment, the bitterness etc., if you want to last in marriage.

9. Fun 

Marriage is not a battleground. So, when there's fun in marriage, there won't be boredom and people won't get tired of such a marriage easily.

Many people are just enduring unnecessarily in marriage. No fun, nothing. Everything seems to be predictable. Boring! You must create time for fun. Eat out sometimes, travel sometimes, go see a movie, play, joke and laugh.

10. Effective Communication 

Effective communication is the ability to communicate your thoughts or feelings to your partner, minding your choice of words, tone of your voice, etc.

Many people have destroyed their marriages with their mouths. They don't know how to communicate to and with their partner concerning issues bothering them. 

So, effective communication is an act you must learn if you want your marriage to last. You must learn how to communicate properly. You must learn how not to let your emotions get in the way. 

11. Love

Love is a strong feeling you have for someone which makes you do things to better the life of the person you love. Even though loving someone is not enough reason to marry but no marriage will last without love. Love is like a foundation, without it marriage will be shaky. 

Love your partner. 

12. Trust 

You must learn to love and to trust who you marry because no marriage survives without these two things here. They're crucial. When you don't love or trust, you can't give your partner your best neither can you receive the best from your partner. God so loved the world and He gave us His best, His Son.

There maybe other things but here are the basic ones: God, compatibility, understanding, tolerance, forgiveness, teamwork, sacrifice, endurance, love, trust, communication, etc.

May you have a fulfilling and lasting marriage in Jesus name, Amen!

THESE ARE THE FOUR CATEGORIES OF CHURCHES IN THE WORLD.

THESE ARE THE FOUR CATEGORIES OF CHURCHES IN THE WORLD.

Which one do you belong to among these?

1. Living Church: These churches are founded by true and called ministers of God. They follow the complete Bible doctrine. They preach repentance, salvation, baptism, holiness, love, judgment to come, eternity, etc. They are also called THE HEAVENLY MINDED CHURCH. They may be few or many (Rev.3:7).

2. Dying Church: These are churches founded by true ministers of God, but the church later backslide after many years when the next generation took over and the only thing left for them to practice is RELIGION (Rev.3:1).

3. Business Church: These are the money making centers. These are not Churches of God. The founder might not necessarily be into satanic covenant, but just decide to start a Church to make money. All they need is a sugar-coated mouth and since people love where they are being deceived and hate where the truth is being preached, they will rush after these churches.

4. *Occultic/Satanic Church:* These are the Churches that are founded by occult men who disguise with the name of Jesus. Since people love to seek for miracles here and there, they troop after these churches. These are the churches that will mandate their members to put on only white or only red or walk bear footed in church premises, give members miracle soap and sponge, spray incense before service, speak some words and money begins to appear, predict peoples account number or phone number so as to prove PROPHECY, bath women at rivers so as to solve problems, etc.

If you are attending the first Church and comply with the truth of God’s word, then you will make heaven. If you are attending the second Church there is still hope for your case, seek God in truth, he might use you to revive that church back, but if they reject the message come out of them and seek for a LIVING CHURCH. If you are in the third church kindly walk out and seek for a Heavenly minded Church. If you are in the fourth church, FLEE, RUN, ESCAPE, and pray that God should deliver you from their powers because these kind of churches register the names of all their members in the demonic world and even if a member leaves such church, he/she will still be subjected to their covenant unless he/she is totally delivered.

These are the things that should not be found in a true Church of God: hatred, fornication and adultery, seductive dressings, conspiracy, strife, artificial beautification like makeups, wigs, earrings, eyelashes, eyepencils, and others like female trousers, miniskirts, opening of hair IN CHURCH among women instead of covering the hair.

Bible references to back up are: Galatians 5:19-21, Romans 12:1, Romans 1:26, 1 Timothy 2:9, 1Corinthian 11:13, Isaiah 3:16-20, Jeremiah 4:30.

Many Ex-Satanist have confessed that properties of Jezebel gave them free access to operate in churches when they were still working for the devil. Make sure you check these verses to confirm for yourself. Is the devil’s property with you? Throw it away before it throws you to Hell.

GOD'S STANDARD REQUIRED

GOD'S STANDARD REQUIRED

It is quite a pity that the present day Church has lost bearing with God's priorities. The essence of praise in our worship is for doing God's pleasure, release His presence, inspire the praisers and to also trigger divine power supernatural manifestations. Today, we have secularized the spiritual through our carnal innovations.

In the days of Tabernacle worship in the Old Testament, the temple musicians and instrumentalists were only selected from the tribe of Levi. They must be sanctified and be wholly dedicated to the Lord II Chronicles 5:11,12; 20:21,22). 

The Gospel truth is that God does not just accept or respond positively to any song of praise He looks beyond our physical presence and efforts into our innermost part (I Samuel 2:3). Therefore, most of our highly esteemed praise-worship sessions are meant to give us entertainment and pleasure, but to God, they are mere noise-making because the singers and instrumentalists themselves are not keeping the standards required from them (Amos 5:21,23).

Gone we're the days when the singers and instrumentalists would take time to fast and pray with thourough heart-searching prior to any special musical program. More so, in the days of revival in the churches in Nigeria (between 1970s and 1980s), most of the local churches and fellowship groups in higher institutions were only used to clapping their hands during praise-worship and yet, the presence and power of God we're always very real with great manifestations; unlike the present days when we are used to highly gifted singers, sophisticated musical equipments and sound systems without divine unction. The fact is that we cannot serve God better nor do His work to His taste until we go back to His standards.

​Beware of the Leaking Bucket​

 ​Beware of the Leaking Bucket​

1. You make people believe you are righteous but secretly you are devil's agent. ​(A leaking bucket).​

2. You pray all the time but you have no strong faith at all. ​(A leaking bucket).​ 

3. You're very kind to people and speak with them gently but with your family you're always harsh. ​(A leaking bucket).​

4.. You honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them and talk about their flaws. ​(A leaking bucket).​

5. You give a lot of charity to the poor but you humiliate them and hurt them. ​(A leaking bucket).​

6. You stand up to pray at night, fast and read The Holy Book everyday but you cut your family ties. ​(A leaking bucket).​

7. You joke with friends openly but behind them you swear, insult, curse and blackmail them. ​(A leaking bucket).​

8. You help others but you're doing it to gain something from them and not doing those acts of kindness for the sake of Almighty God's Glory. ​(A leaking bucket).​

9. You post reminders and have thousands of followers on facebook, twitter and instagram but you're doing it for the fame, not to spread the gospel. ​(A leaking bucket).​

10. You read this beautiful post and you gain from it but deliberately refuse to share with others. ​(A leaking bucket).​

May the Almighty God have mercy on us not to become Leaking Buckets.🗑🚰

WHY MANY CHRISTIANS WILL END UP IN HELL FIRE (Number 32:23)

WHY MANY CHRISTIANS WILL END UP IN HELL FIRE (Number 32:23)

1 You woman/lady that loves to showcase your breast in Church so as to breast feed men with lust with those breast revealing clothes of yours, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

2 You brother/sister that is a Christian or that is a leader in one of the department in Church but is still fornicating, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

3 You Prophet lying to the congregation in the name of the Lord, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

4 You Pastor/Evangelist/Teacher that sees a sheep going astray but refuses to warn him or her because of tithes and offerings, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

5 You brother/sister that is still drinking alcohol and taking hard drugs, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

6 You church drummer that is still going to clubs to play drums, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

7 You sister wearing miniskirts to church to expose your laps to men in church, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

8 You sister changing the Glory and Image of God to that of the mermaids and sirens with your eye lashes, eye pencil, weave on, lipstick, artificial nails, e.t.c, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

9 You sister wearing very tight skirt to show the roundness of your buttocks just for the sake of men to lust after you, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

10 You brother Choir Master abusing those girls in the choir sexually, YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT.

NUMBERS 32:23b “ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out.”

The Church of today is filled with many unborn-again believers. Only few among them are recognized in Heaven. The people commit willful sins, the Pastors and Prophets prophesy deceits to them instead of rebuking the iniquity in the church.

Our Lord said in Luke 13:2-3 “And Jesus answering said unto them, Suppose ye that these Galilaeans were sinners above all the Galilaeans, because they suffered such things? I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.”

Do you think you can escape God’s judgement? Amos 9:2 says “Though they dig into hell, thence shall mine hand take them; though they climb up to heaven, thence will I bring them down:”

The Church of this age is abusing the grace of God, only few Churches are still in line with the Will Of God. Many Churches of these days are religious clubhouses. There is no difference between these Churches and Disco Clubs. Ezekiel 22:26 “Her priests have violated my law, and have profaned mine holy things: they have put no difference between the holy and profane, neither have they shewed difference between the unclean and the clean, and have hid their eyes from my sabbaths, and I am profaned among them.”

We are already witnessing the replay of what happened in the time of Prophet Ezekiel. The most painful thing is that those who are supposed to warn people about sin in reality need WARNING. The people in churches now love to hear topics like: prosperity, faith, healing, breakthrough, blessings but when it comes to the topic HOLINESS, the preacher will either become a preacher of the Law or a speaker of HATE SPEECH. It had happened in the time of the Prophets, and the Apostles also prophesied of it in the last days. Jeremiah 5:31 “The prophets prophesy falsely, and the priests bear rule by their means; AND MY PEOPLE LOVE TO HAVE IT SO: and what will ye do in the end thereof?

2Timothy 4:3 “For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;”

It is high time the Church rebuke women who come to church with the attire of a harlot. Proverbs 7:10 “And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.” The Church should be a congregation where saved brothers and sisters fellowship with God and one another, not a place where men meet with harlots.

Clothes revealing the nakedness (breast, laps, buttocks, ampit) and tight clothes should be taken away from the house of God.

YOU MAN OF GOD, THE LORD IS TELLING YOU TO REBUKE SIN AMONG THE FLOCK SO THAT YOU WILL NOT BE GUILTY OF THEIR BLOOD.

1Timothy 5:20 Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.

 2Titus 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

 Titus 1:13 This witness is true. Wherefore rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith;

 Titus 2:15 ¶ These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.

THIS IS THE LAST WARNING TO THE SEVENTH CHURCH FROM THE LORD

REVELATION 3:15-19

I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see.

Verse 19

As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.

DON'T BUILD YOUR LIFE ON PROPHETS OR PROPHECY

DON'T BUILD YOUR LIFE ON PROPHETS OR PROPHECY

Many years ago, a Pastor friend of mine invited a reputable American Prophet to come and minister in his Church. The Prophet spoke out some words over my friend and over different people in his Church, that were amazingly accurate.

The same thing happened the next time, and the next. the prophet spoke out some amazingly accurate words. My friend began to trust this Prophet without any reservations.

Then on one occasion this Prophet told my Pastor friend that his wife had a "Jezebel spirit" and that he must divorce her if his Ministry was to move forward. My friend, an experienced Pastor with a big Church, divorced his wife.

My friend lost his Church and his family. He lost everything. He died before his time, sick and alone, a lonely man.

The Moral Of This Sad Story:

1. Never trust a prophet and his words unconditionally.

It does not matter how accurate he is. ALWAYS check EVERYTHING that he says against the Word of God.

2. Know what the Bible says.

If someone who is supposedly a "man of God" tells you to do something unscriptural like divorcing your wife, DO NOT DO IT!

3. DO NOT be led by prophets or what they say.

Be led by the Word of God and know the Holy Spirit for yourself. Have relationships with men and women of different 5-fold ministry gifts. Weigh-in important things with ALL of them.

4. Lastly, be wary of these so-called "American Prophets"..... check them out properly.

- Do you see Jesus in them and do their utterances lift up and glorify Jesus?

- Do they actually "live" their message?

- Do they have a pure reputation?

Remember, if you build your Life, Ministry, Marriage or Destiny on prophets or prophetic pronouncements, you will never have peace of heart!

IT IS A PRIVILEGE

IT IS A PRIVILEGE

When a man is called to serve or chosen by God , he must see it as a great privilege which must be handled with fear of God and humility.

I discovered that being chosen by God does not mean the person is better anyway. It’s just grace and great privilege. Judas failed to know this truth, he messed up and was disqualified from this glorious position and another man was chosen to replace him. Whoever would replace Judas must have been with Jesus from the beginning .

Act 1:21-22 : Wherefore of these men which have companied with us all the time that the Lord Jesus went in and out among us. Beginning from the baptism of John, unto that same day that he was taken up from us, must one be ordained to be a witness with us of his resurrection.

It means. there were so many disciples that were following Jesus from the beginning apart from the Apostles that were not picked . Many of those men were known only by God whom they have come to serve .God knows those that were following in truth.

Guide yourself and keep whatever God has committed in your hands because there are many alternatives , the reserve people that were very close to you and ready to take over if you mess up. Those reserve ones are not needed to be tutored because they are not new to the system. They are already there from the beginning. And when they step in ,nothing will miss.

They will just flow in the power of God and continue where the person stop . May we not be replaced in Jesus name .

Prayer: Father .may I keep serving you in fear and humility of heart . May I be possessed with the mind of Christ in Jesus name

Repaired Boat Holes

A man was asked to paint a boat. He brought his paint and brushes and began to paint the boat a bright red, as the owner asked him.

While painting, he noticed a small hole in the hull, and quietly repaired it.

When he finished painting, he received his money and left.

The next day, the owner of the boat came to the painter and presented him with a nice check, much higher than the payment for painting.

The painter was surprised and said “You've already paid me for painting the boat Sir!”

“But this is not for the paint job. It's for repairing the hole in the boat.”

“Ah! But it was such a small service... certainly it's not worth paying me such a high amount for something so insignificant.”

“My dear friend, you do not understand. Let me tell you what happened:

“When I asked you to paint the boat, I forgot to mention the hole.

“When the boat dried, my kids took the boat and went on a fishing trip.

“They did not know that there was a hole. I was not at home at that time.

“When I returned and noticed they had taken the boat, I was desperate because I remembered that the boat had a hole.

“Imagine my relief and joy when I saw them returning from fishing.

“Then, I examined the boat and found that you had repaired the hole!

“You see, now, what you did? You saved the life of my children! I do not have enough money to pay your 'small' good deed.”

So no matter who, when or how, continue to help, sustain, wipe tears, listen attentively, and carefully repair all the 'leaks' you find. You never know when one is in need of us, or when God holds a pleasant surprise for us to be helpful and important to someone.

Along the way, you may have repaired numerous 'boat holes' for several people without realizing how many lives you've save. ❤️

Make a difference....be the best of you

MAKE YOUR CHOICE

- When choosing a woman who works, you have to accept that she can't handle the house.

- If you have chosen a housewife who can take care of you and fully manage your household, you have to accept that she is not earning money.

- If you choose an obedient woman, you must accept that she depends on you and you must ensure her life. 

- If you decide to be with a strong woman, you have to accept that she is tough and she has her own opinion.

- If you choose a beautiful woman, then you will have to accept big expenses.

- If you decide to be with a successful woman, you must understand that she has character and has her own goals and ambitions.

There are no such things as perfect. Everyone has their own riddle, which makes us unique.

Stop and think.! 🙂❤️

STOP INSULTING YOUR SPOUSE DURING A MISUNDERSTANDING

STOP INSULTING YOUR SPOUSE DURING A MISUNDERSTANDING

Be careful what you say to your spouse during a misunderstanding you are killing then silently, they may not discuss it with you but they are going through hell anytime there is a misunderstanding and you say terrible things to them.

Misunderstanding is something that would never stop coming your way, the way toy resolve it matters a lot, if you resolve it well good for you but if you don't resolve it well you're killing your relationship, you words are so hurting that you start giving your spouse reasons to abandon you.

A little argument you're already insulting your spouse, calling them all sought of names, using their weakness against them, saying hurtful and terrible things to them, some persons even go as far as making their partners shade tears because of the hurtful words that comes out of your mouth during an argument.

So many beautiful relationships have ended because of the fact that most people don't control what they say to their partners during an argument. 

Meanwhile while you're saying those hurtful things to them and still keeping malice with them another guy/lady out there is saying sweet words to them later on when they leave you for those persons you start crying that they abandoned you meanwhile it was your mouth that caused it.

Someone will be asking how do I solve this challenge of using hurtful words to my spouse during an argument or you have any relationship/marriage pertaining problems you can speak to us directly on wattsap, God bless you in Jesus name.

YOU ARE BORN TO BE GREAT

You were born to be great. You have greatness inside of you. What you are going  through shouldn't define you. Because you can't see the greatness in the present, doesn't mean it's not true.

You were born to be great, yes, you've got work to do to express it,  but the presence of struggles is not the absent of greatness.

 

Pressure refines diamond, so also diversity builds you. Gold has to go through fire to shine. The fire is not the end of the gold, shining is! Your current struggles is not the end of you, your greatness is!

You are being built and refined to show forth the Glory of God. A great God can't birth a small you. He made you great.

Believe in what God has made you to be, Live in the consciousness of who you are. Endure all you are going through because you are going somewhere. Go through the process that will birth your success. 

Never doubt your greatness, God has made you great, you have greatness in you.